How to deal with it?
I miss not being able to join and eat with my family. I mean, yes, I do eat and yes, I eat with them but it isn’t the same. Today, great grandmother came and two cousins, girlfriend and brother/sis in law. So, my fil cooked a huge feast of allt he good things. I don’t mind eating my own food but I finish before anyone else. How do you deal with not being able to eat like everyone else is eating? I am sitting here on the computer now while they are all still eating. I feel that I miss out so much sometimes by having to live this kind of life (weight loss) and even when at goal, I can’t really eat like they eat. How do deal? I really don’t know. When I go to a wedding here, same thing, weddings here are mainly banquets more then anything. So, I have my own food but finished way before anyone else and have to sit and see all this delicious food going by. How to deal with it? It isn’t like they are fat people, most chinese are thin but they do love to eat and they DO eat. I know I am not chinese and don’t have the genetics(I’m cursed!) but I am living here. I can’t just order a plate of food like in the US so it somewhat feels normal. Here, the meal is served in bowls and put int he middel. YOu have your bowl of rice and everyomne just grabs a bite here and a bite there of whatever you want to eat. Pretty much cummunial meals. So, I can’t just share with them, I can’t order a plate of whatever because they have to add oil and salt so I just sometimes feel left out. PLus, I want that meat soup so bad, sigh! But it will be worth it. Just not sure how to deal with it for life though
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I am a diabetic and I go thru this with my family all the time. They eat cakes, cookies, chili dogs, quesadillas, pizza, fried stuff, etc. I try to deal with it by letting myself have a taste so i don’t feel so deprived. I do have empathy for you because it is very hard not to feel left out. But, usually I do eat a small amount of the foods I want most and eat more of the healthier stuff to balance it all out.
Aww, sounds ruff! I know you dont trust yourself right now to just have a “little” so that doesnt help much. I would say have a coffe or hot tea while they are still eating maybe? Eventually the urges to keep eating will go away—I hope! We have to remember it is JUST FOOD. I know it is a hard process to go through but it really is JUST food and it idsnt going anywhere. One day when you have gained the control, it will STILL be there sweetheart. I have had to tell myself this several times to get to where I am now where I can just say NO or eat in moderation. And you are doubly hexed because you are in a different culture with different foods and traditions so leraning to think and eat differently is extra difficult. Stay strong and keep doing what you are doing and coming on here to LET it out
Aww, sounds ruff! I know you dont trust yourself right now to just have a “little” so that doesnt help much. I would say have a coffe or hot tea while they are still eating maybe? Eventually the urges to keep eating will go away—I hope! We have to remember it is JUST FOOD. I know it is a hard process to go through but it really is JUST food and it idsnt going anywhere. One day when you have gained the control, it will STILL be there sweetheart. I have had to tell myself this several times to get to where I am now where I can just say NO or eat in moderation. And you are doubly hexed because you are in a different culture with different foods and traditions so leraning to think and eat differently is extra difficult. Stay strong and keep doing what you are doing and coming on here to LET it out
Ok, first of all focus on how healthy you are getting. And I think it is so sad that family gatherings are always about food. Maybe you can talk to your family and try to get their supprt?
hugz… I empathize with ya. Hang in there, you’re doing great!
Could be worse, yesterday I wore a pair of jeans that today don’t even BEGIN to fit my tummy… overnight? are you serious??? sheesh!
hehe, just trying to get a smile out of ya