From Cocoon to butterfly

Things are going well here. I am happy that sometimes my posting can help others, it really makes my day and as much as it helps you guys, iit helps me even more,  preaching to the choir is my middle name!  But I am feeling so much better these days and I seem to have finally gotten out of that funk i was in last week. Now, If I can only get my youngest to beleive that sleeping is good for you *she’s a baby* I’ll have it made! hehehe

On another thread of throught., I had someone ask me to list down things that have changed about me since losing weight, not just the number on the scale decreasing but what have I noticed about me. That caused me to step back and think. It is easy enough to think of all the changes that I would “like ” to see once I get to goal but what about now? I think it is wrong to measure ourself to our one big goal. I mean, do we instantly have a husband, children, house, cars and so on. No, our big goal is to have all that and be financially secure but we can’t measure our sucess according to the big picture. It is the small steps in the right direction that we measure our success. First we met a nice man, Then we date. Who doesn’t remember their first date with their sig. other? Small step but means so much. Then we get serious. Engagement (remember how he popped the question) all these little steps lead up to a bigger one. That is how we should view our weight loss. Not in the whole picture but in the small steps. And we should celebrate each success no matter how trivial they might be to others. I have had people laugh at some of my goals. Shall I share them: To get in the tub without both thighs touching the side. To have the towel close all the way around.  To wrestle with my husband and NOT win. Just some of them but I measure my success by them. Not just that, but also by our thinking. We have to change our thinking or none of what we do matters. Again, taking the issue of marriage. Marriage is sacred and don’t get me wrong but what really marries you?? The ring on your finger?  Standing in front of a preacher? Oh, maybe the wedding dress? That slip of paper. But you know, none of it makes you married. What makes you married is how you view yourself and how your attitude changes.  Before, being single, we approached things in a different attitude and way. After marriage, things change and we change. OUr outsides don’t change so much but it is what is on the inside that is so important. The same way with losing weight. Yeah, you can lose it but if your attitude doesn’t change with it, if you don’t accept the responsiblities of being thin and eating right, you will end up in a nasty divorce with your thinness and I am afraid you will end up having to pay child support becuase you are going to have plenty of pounds to support. WE have to change , not just the clothes and the body, but the mindset. WE must learn what it takes to stay thin and be responsible for keeping that. You can’t ignore your responsibilites but you must actively be aware of them all the time. And this journey to weight loss, it is a journey that must never end. Do you get married thinking, ok, I am going to stay married until such and such date. After that, I am finished!  Of course not, you know you are entering into a lifetime committment. Things will change but you stay with each other. Same with losing weight. We can’t just look at our goal weight and the time, I am finished with dieting. This is not a simple illness that can be cured. We will have it all our lives. WE are on a lifetime committment. To be successful, happy and loving ourselves, we must be prepared to keep with it for the rest of our lives. Reaching goal is not the magic pill that says, ok, all is fine. Your life will still be yoru life no matter thick or thin. I have lost and gained so mnay times that I know, I will never be able to stop. I will always have to be on guard against gaining it back becuase it sure is easy. But if I keep from having affairs with bad food by always be cautious and always be faithful to my body and plan, My marriage with my thin body will stand the trial of time and chocolate.